Reposted from 5/22/12
I woke up this morning itching to write... not sure about the subject. So I asked my guides for a lead and from Danielle LaPorte I received "People Heal."
So much of the Mediumship work I do is around healing, completing relationships, resolving the unresolved and permission to keep living. There is a clear line and deep necessity when we lose a loved one. They are very gone. We are very here. And we miss them so very much. People, scenery, scents, music, textures, stories, colors, or maybe just the silence sends us into the past and once again brings grief and loss to the surface. If we have loved deeply, created a life with someone and lost them (even if they didn't die) we will forever be touched and changed by our connection. That is the gift of Love. I've talked before, and will keep talking, about the flow of Love. That it moves through our lives as a gift, not to be held & locked away but to be embraced in the moment and cherished for the light it brings to the now.
Love sometimes brings us together in partnership and when one of the partners leaves, there is an obvious gap in a life that was caused and created by two. This gap, when filled with grief, mourning, resentment or anger, overwhelms the memory and vibration of Love, of connection, of the truth that lived between mates. The Love still exists, it is just forgotten or overlooked by the seductive nuances of loss and absence.
And, People Heal.
Our hearts are resilient.
We are heart-wired to Love, to connect, to grow and to learn about ourselves through our experiences with each other.
When Love saunters through our lives, it always makes us a better person. We get to see ourselves through the eyes of another. We realize new opportunities. We feel more connected with God and with life and with nature. And what brings these feelings is not the other person. It is the allowing of our hearts, the opening of our spirits, the flow of light through our beings. It is we who choose Love and we who attract that person who magnifies the experience. So, when the person who shares this experience with us is no longer here, it doesn't mean the flow has stopped, just that the flow is changing course. After loss, Love may flow through in other ways: generous friends, compassionate family, in-pouring from our community.
The love is still here.
Through my experiences, it is the one who passed who often fosters this continued flow as a reminder that the Love remains.
Continuing to Love and give and share life with someone new can be a tribute to what was shared with the one who is gone. Continuing to live in honor of what was co-created is vital to the flow of Love and the feeling of vitality. Living for the sake of giving and receiving Love, not for the other person, is the continuity of life and the preservation of Love.
Grief is a natural part of the separation process. I am not saying not to feel it or acknowledge the loss. I, and those who have gone before us, encourage an openness in grief and loss. Embrace every feeling and then let it flow through. Toss and sort, discard and memorialize the feelings the same way we filter the closets and desks of their possessions. All with the acceptance that what really mattered will never leave us: the choice to give Love and receive Love, in order to allow Loving and being Loved again. The heart will heal as fast as you allow it to; it was made to Love and wants to Love again.
You can make those promises with just as much passion the next time around. Such is the regenerative power of the human heart. –Marion Wink
I wish you more love than you think your heart can handle ~ Cheryl
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